I’m the single mother of a terrific daughter who will be starting her junior year of high school in September. As the summer takes off and I look back on the past year, I recall a demanding, frustrating and enlightening agenda of late night study sessions, accelerated classes, soul-searching, worry about the future and career planning…
There are times in life when everything seems to come together in perfect harmony. But there are often times when everything seems to be a mess – Nothing feels quite right, bad luck seems to follow you everywhere, and the background music of your life is an insistent cacophony of grating dissonance that announces, very clearly, “Your life isn’t working.” We’ve all been there, but have you ever wondered how you got there and why? Continue reading →
They say “change is good” and, for the most part, I agree. After all, without a healthy dose of change life would be boring and spiritless. But what happens when the force of change doesn’t knock on the door but, instead, knocks down your whole house? Continue reading →
Years ago I experienced divorce first-hand and it was awful. Emotionally crippling and physically debilitating, I found myself believing that the pain would simply eat me alive as I became a shell of who I used to be. I desperately wanted my “original” self back – to replace my newfound despair with my youthful sense of passion – to recapture my enthusiasm for life. So when I saw the movie “Under the Tuscan Sun,” I found myself living vicariously through Frances, the movie’s protagonist. The plot is simple: Continue reading →
If you’re like me, you were probably raised to observe old-fashioned values and good manners; be fair, be kind, be patient, be a team-player. I’ve spent a lifetime observing these principles and, most often, I’m proud to do so. But I’ve also learned a valuable lesson – the final lesson in the “old-fashioned values” handbook that, I think, most of us were never taught… Not everyone deserves your best. Continue reading →
No one likes to make mistakes. In fact, we can be downright haunted by them. Mistakes have the power to make us feel foolish, expose our weaknesses and reduce carefully laid foundations to rubble. Whether it’s a vision in mind for a particular project, intentions for a valued relationship or carefully laid plans for the future, mistakes that alter our objectives can be devastating… or they can be unexpected game-changers – great opportunities for success. Continue reading →
None of us are strangers to stress. We face it at work and at home, in various stages of the day and in varying degrees. What causes one person stress may not phase another, and how each of us deals with stress varies. But in these crazy times, stress has become as much a part of our day-to-day existence as our morning coffee, making it dangerously close to becoming an “accepted” part of our existence – and that’s just scary.
I have a friend who is a scenic artist. She’s smart and incredibly talented, and has worked on films starring big names like Will Smith, Denzel Washington and Kevin Bacon. She can transform any surface into an artistic illusion; marble… rust… any patina imaginable. So you can imagine my surprise when she recently whispered to me that she’s afraid of being “found out” – that people will realize she has no talent. Continue reading →